And This One Matters......: Our First Phone Call To Sergiy!

Friday, January 13, 2012

Our First Phone Call To Sergiy!

Today was our first phone call to Sergiy at his boarding school. The staff was wonderful to allow us to talk with him. Joe had the phone first and got to speak with him. Sergiy was so excited to hear dads voice. Then Kolya and I pick up the other phone so we could all be on. He sounded so cold, happy to hear us but sad. When he heard my voive he sounded so stinking happy which was awesome and he said "Ma". I about cried. He said he was sad and missed us. He missed Georgie and Otis (our cats who he adores) and our dogs Beau, Daisy and Charlie. He had said "Ma I no smoke". I was so proud of him. I know many of his friends smoke because there is not much to do and him and I talked about it before he left. He openly told me they would ask him when he got back and asked me what he should do. So we talked about how to handle it without losing his friends. I am so proud of him! He loves to lift weights and he has been so I told him when you are tempted to smoke say a little prayer and go lift weights, remove yourself. He said he still has his peanut butter and syrup I sent back with him. I asked if he was sharing it and he said no, it was special. LOL! He brought back many items for his friends so this he is hanging on to! He kept asking when we would be there for him. Then he said the words for the first time "Ma I love you". Whew wee! I could hear the cold and sadness in his voice. Kolya then told him that yesterday mum put pictures of him and us all over the house. He got excited and said "Thank you ma". Although we had a tough times during hosting that we were dealt to just hear him say he is ready to be home, he misses and loves us just confirmed we are moving forward as God intended for us and we are so thankful God opened the doors to have our dossier ready to go ahead of time. That this time apart can strengthen us as a family. Oh how I wanted to talk to him before the weekend to just hear his voice and let him know we have not gone anywhere and that we have not left him and we love him and it was so awesome that God honored that. We all four prayed together on the phone and encouraged him to hang in there. As hard as it was to hear the sadness in his voice I am rejoicing knowing another chip has been taken off his high and thick wall and for that I am blessed!

We now just keep calling and writing and await a date to travel! Gods timing is always perfect so in that we rest.

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AnonymousJanuary 13, 2012 at 8:23 PM
This is soo great!!! I'm glad you got ahold of him so soon at the school! He's gotta miss you guys tons. I know that sad sound on the phone... but hearing "I love you" with that awesome Ukrainian accent makes it all worth it! We have not talked about smoking with Sasha lately, but it does remind me that I need to ask him about his girlfriend status. I'll be praying that our boys can be a support for one another! It's so awesome how God has brought us together on this journey!!
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Danny, April and CobyJanuary 14, 2012 at 7:45 AM
OK ....that was so sweet! Tears are welling up in my eyes, "Ma, I love you". Words can't even begin to describe what I felt when reading that!
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And This One MattersJanuary 14, 2012 at 8:12 AM
I am telling you two talking to him on the phone was like talking to the boy I knew he was but had such a hard time letting out with all the issues our family was dealt. It was so incredible. As hard as it was so hear him sad and for me to hear him sad this was good. The attaching is happening, the healing is beginning. So completely awesome. I am trying to hold back tears. Oh how I miss him and wish imcould hug and comfort him and then tickle him. His laugh is like a little boy and his scream is like a girl. I love it! Girls he is coming home soon. Please just keep our boy in prayer that his spirits stay up and he stays strong knowing he is loved by Christ and us. We are blessed that he is saved and knows our Lord. So blessed. April you will to continue to see your boy! Jenelle I am so excited about the boys staying in touch too. I told him once both of them are home they can still talk often. I know he was so excited to know when Sasha was coming home when he was here. I do pray the boys can be comfort to each other in the waiting. I believe they will. I asked him how Sasha was doing and he said good. We know both of them are ready for home. Sasha has long awaited this too! This wait for your family and Sasha there will be many blessings
to come for you all! Love both you gals!
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What Does Nicole Mean By Advocating For Orphans?

So glad you asked! In Ukraine many hosting programs are shutting down. The reason being is boarding schools (orphanages) are being condensed the more the foster care system grows in Ukraine. This leaves the school Directors in fear of losing their jobs if they do not hold a specific number of children in their boarding school. Then the threat of shut down looms over their heads. The second reason is with hosting programs that means many children will find their forever families which means again the number of children falls under what is required for the school to remain open. It is a double edge sword. You have many Directors that want their children adopted but then they know if they loose their job they cannot support their family. It is not easy in Eastern Europe to find a job in a couple days. Especially with the current climate Ukraine is in with war at hand.

5 years ago Nicole started to notice the decline in hosting programs being allowed to continue to bring children over to America. With the adoption of their children, especially their 2 littles ones Nicole & Joe knew they did not have the allotted time needed to dedicate to volunteer with NHFC and not be able to give it their all like they had done in the past. They did not want to fail the NHFC team. So they resigned and Nicole went freelancing in Ukraine. On Gods timing, when she was able, wherever God lead and with the team God put together. On these trips Nicole, her son Kolya and/or the team would teach children English, teach them about Jesus, love on them and then fight for them. Meaning if a child or boarding school staff came to Nicole and said this child wanted a family Nicole would interview them and spend as much time with them as possible to get to know them personally. Nicole would do this in an effort to learn as much as possible to help advocate for the child in hopes their forever family would come forward. Nicole would learn the good and bad in an effort to be upfront and honest with a potential adoptive family.

Nicole is not an adoption agency, a hosting agency, nor a professional and she does not work for anyone accept God. She is a gal after God's heart and children, a stay at home Mama that has worked with teens for 20 years and this is her heart and passion.

Why Ukraine Nicole?

In Eastern Europe it is very different then America. In America if a child is in the foster care system they can remain with their family for care until they are 18 years old. In America there is opportunity for just about everyone even if it is working at McDonalds. You are not labeled as an "Orphan". In Eastern Europe an orphaned children is basically wearing a stamp his/her their forehead that says "Orphan". It is like a permanent tattoo that is with them for life and never washes off not only in their mind but to others. They are not wanted or welcomed in many cases. On a trip to Ukraine a sign was spotted that stated "No orphans allowed" that was posted up on the door of a store. At the age of 16 these children age out of their boarding schools and have a choice of trade school or the streets. Most of them have no family to turn to. So just imagine a 16 year old child left to their own with NO accountability. With the economic crises and war in Eastern Europe the children that have extended family like Grandpa, Grandma, a sister or a brother cannot afford to take in the child so they only visit. If the child should choose to go to trade school it generally consists of coal mining, hair dressing, etc. Even with that in school the kids again are accountable to themselves and if they do not hold up their grades they are on the streets. If they graduate they still are stamped "Orphaned". So should they apply for a job with many other folks they will be the ones tossed because of this label. So their chances of graduating trade school and then getting a job are slim to known unless they are one determined child. The trade school housing for the kids is old hospitals that are now used as dorms. If a child is not back to their dorm by 10PM they are locked out for the night and they will call the streets then bedroom. Many children have been noted to say that they are scared to be in the trade school dorms because of the violence, rap, prostitution, drugs and alcohol. One child was noted to say that he would find kids shooting up drugs in the hallway and passed out. He bought a gun illegally in order to be able to protect himself of the unknown there. Then you have the rebels that take the world on by themselves that either at this point in their life want to live independently and not report to anyone or just cannot handle the trade school life and want nothing to do with it. So they take the streets to make it. They generally fall into becoming thieves, go into prostitution or commit suicide in order to survive. No matter how you flip this coin the statistics are grim from these children. They are all survivors doing just that.......surviving.

There is such a significant need all over the world even in America. Joe and I were foster parents and have served with youth in the US for our entire marriage and Nicole prior to marriage. God steered Joe and Nicole on a different path when they were introduced to NHFC and adopted their first son, Kolya from Ukraine. God has continued to call them to Ukraine in an effort to reach the voiceless and give them a voice, hope and love. God calls each of us to a specific place, time and season to do His work as Christians. God has shifted their call to Ukraine.....for the time being. Again they go where God leads where ever it may be.

Meet The Dewberrys

The Dewberrys came together as a family after hosting their now 18 year old now son, Kolya from Ukraine during Christmas 2010 through an International hosting program called New Horizons For Children, Inc.

In the midst of hosting Kolya, Joe and Nicole felt the Lord was going to lead them through more then just hosting in Ukraine. Nicole and Joe was were blessed to work with NHFC as a volunteer Regional Directors in North Carolina for the orphan hosting program. Nicole realized that in time there seemed to be a decline to host children from Ukraine with all the politics that was abounding in Ukraine. So she felt a lead to break away from hosting and go where God leads to travel to Ukraine and be wide open to God to lead her to orphanages to met children that could no longer be hosted and advocate to find them forever families that were aging out. For the last 6 years Nicole has been traveling to Ukraine several times a year to teach English in orphanages, teach the children about Jesus, show them the love of Christ and advocate for true orphans that want a forever family. Nicole brings aid to the Ukraine military, visiting the military in the hospitals as well as meeting active duty and on the field military and serving with mission teams the local folks that remain in regions that are devastated by war with her oldest son Misha. The Dewberrrys children have returned with Nicole to Ukraine on many occasions to serve the people of their country.

Kids are Joe and Nicole's love and passion. Nicole has worked with teens for 22 years. Joe and Nicole together have done mission work with youth and have specifically worked with at-risk youth and in church youth ministry for 17 years. The Dewberrys arms are wide open to show the love they have for the lost and forgotten youth.

The Lord lead them back to Ukraine in 2012 to adopt Tania, 10 years old & Stopha who is 8 years old and are HIV+. In 2014 the Lord lead the Dewberrys back to Ukraine to adopt Bogdan 12 years old who is HIV+ and Angelica 19 years old and Kristjan 16 years old. Then in 2015 the Dewberry's returned for Vova 16 years old and Viktor 12 years old. None of the Dewberrys children would not be home without the prayers and the hands of feet of Christ of folks coming alongside their family to see their children home and also all the mission trips Nicole has been on.

Nicole and her children continue to return to Ukraine to do mission work advocating for orphans that want forever families, teaching them about Jesus, teaching them English as well as doing doing mission work with the military and regions of devastation by serving those left behind.

With the greater increase in adoptions which is amazing there is also a greater need for support for adopted children and their families. Nicole is now working with Hope Connection International holding classes and support groups to teach pre-adoption classes, connect families that have adopted within the US and abroad and work with families in crises to help prevent disruption.

Our family prayer is to go where God leads.

Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. - James 1:27

About This Blog

This blog is dedicated to our heart and soul, the orphans that cannot speak out of Eastern Europe. This blog is about our journey of the adoption of our children, the mission work we do in Eastern Europe, advocating for orphans and wherever God leads our family.

This blog is also about the trials and tribulations we have faced with hosting, adopting, missions work already and yet to come. The grace, mercies and restorations of our hearts and minds. The incredible friendships God has provided along the way. About our missions trips to Ukraine working with orphans. The blessings of when Nicole volunteered with New Horizons For Children as Regional Director. All our crazy stories & adventures we have had along the way here in America and in Ukraine. And oh how we have adventures and stories! This blog is a dedication to our Lord and Savior encompassing the one thing he treasures more then anything, His children.....the orphans.