And This One Matters......: The Dreaded Call........

Saturday, November 30, 2013

The Dreaded Call........

Folks that know our history and have followed our journey when this blog first got started when we went to adopt Sergiy know prior to leaving for him we made our last call to him and it did not show well to be good signs. He was avoiding our call, once we talked to him I could not hear that joy, laughter, I love you Mama like I had in the past. We lost him. Needless to say I knew he was not coming home we flew. He never came home and there was a battle for Sergiys heart, mind and soul. The orphanage staff fought along side us. It was a battle still fresh in my mind.

Our recent trip for the boys. My last call to Sash before takeoff was not well. He was alive, alert and sounded freaked out. Then he said mum I have a girlfriend please don't come for me as I could hear someone coaxing him in the background. I explained to him I am coming not just for you so you are stuck seeing me. I told him I loved him and would see him in a couple days and ended the call. As folks know none of the boys made it home. The battle for the boys was like a dream that was so intense and real and you have to wake yourself up to stop it. But our battle was real and again one never forgotten. But God still was and is with us and the boys. I know his word does not go void. I know God fought before us, beside us, behind us in inside us in each and every loss we have endured.

When I told God I was done, when I told him I was through moving forward to adopt again. That feeling months ago that there was one more teenage boy that was put heavily on my heart by God I put that away after losing the boys thinking maybe I had it all wrong. I know what I felt, I believed what I felt, and I have no questions it was only from God and Joe had the same feeling as well but in a sense it was too much for me to think about, process or let take over my mind. I was done. Every 3 months God has been sending me back to Ukraine. It has been a pattern. I told him I am at 3 months and I ain't going back. Then David reached out to me the very next day in October begging for a family. Reaching far and wide to others and myself, he was willing to let me in to know who he is knowing I was on his side and biggest cheerleader to advocate for him. Meanwhile I was falling in love with this boy and it was mutual as he openly told me I love you Nicole and want to be in your family. This was a brave move as he did not reach out to others nor ask other families to adopt him nor tell them he loved them. So move forward with me to today.....today was the call before blast off for me in a couple days. I am packed and ready to go, short on money and scared to freaking death of once again returning empty handed. I keep seeking God in faith that he has brought us to this ledge and although my toes are hanging over again will David jump and come home, will the funds needed come in to adopt him. In my head I am prepared for rejection once again. I was actually hoping and preparing he would say nope I changed my mind so then I do not have to go through the loss again and I can cancel my flight although I love this boy so much, shut this door and walk away, dust my hands off and move on. The feelings remind me of wanting so badly to jump out of a plane and you have waiting years and years to do it and the moment comes. You got your pack on, you are all geared up, your safety gear has been checked, your goggles are on, your hair is contained so you can see Gods beauty from high above going all the way down, your boots are on snug and you are ready to roll. Then........you JUMP and you are so darn scared all the way down you are screaming with your eyes closed! You can't see a darn thing cause you are so freaked out. Well that is me......so I have to remind myself.....God told me there was 1, UNO, ONE more BOY. I did not go looking for David nor any child to adopt at this point. David found me. God put family on his heart. God put our family on his heart. God put him on our hearts. I said I will only advocate for you but the pressure will be on you because kiddo you gotta me made of steal to put up with my drilling after the losses of my boys. I told him put on your Armor to fight the enemy as we go to battle to find you a family. So today Joe, Kolya, myself, Tania and Stopha made the call to David. Joe and I both nervous knowing this is the call that is going to tell us if he is coming home and do I fly. The dreaded call and I was preparing for impact and rejection. Well folks HE IS COMING HOME! He is set, he is ready, he is determined and he wants family like the air he breathes. We all shared funny stories and talked about life at home and once he is here. The call ended with a prayer as always and I love you Mama, shared I love you's, giggles and we miss you.

So where are we now.....I leave December 3rd we have $14,312.05 to raise to be fully funded. I am so completely incapable by any means to raise these funds. Again I remind myself God lead this boy to me (us), God brought him to me (us). I am clinging to trust and obey and these verses. Luke 1:37—“For with God nothing shall be impossible.”
Mark 9:23—“All things are possible to him that believeth.”

To read our story about David please visit this link:

http://andthisonematters.blogspot.com/2013/11/november-2013-after-i-claimed-to-god.html

These are the events we have going on in order to bring David home!

LIVE CHRISTMAS AUCTION FOR DAVID. DO YOUR CHRISTMAS SHOPPING TO HELP BRING DAVID HOME! PAY NO TAX, TAX-DEDUCTIONS WHEN YOU MAKE YOUR DONATION TO BRING DAVID HOME, HELPING US MAKE ONE LESS ORPHAN AND BRING OUR BOY HOME! IT'S A WIN WIN! AUCTION ENDS DECEMBER 1ST!

CLICK HERE TO GO INTO THE AUCTION:

https://www.facebook.com/nicole.trimbledewberry/media_set?set=a.10202470073542921.1073741827.1527020298&type=3

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GRANT MATCH!

WE HAVE BEEN OFFERED $360.00 MATCH GRANT. IT CANNOT AND WILL NOT FUND UNTIL $360.00 HAS BEEN RAISED AND I LEAVE IN 4 DAYS AND THIS MATCH GRANT MUST BE MET IN 2 WEEKS OR LESS OR THE MONEY IS NO LONGER AVAILABLE TO US. OUR REECE'S RAINBOW TICKER MUST READ THIS AMOUNT EXACTLY TO FUND $4,108.76.

IF YOU FEEL LEAD TO HELP OUR FAMILY REACH THIS MATCH GRANT FOR DENIS YOU CAN MAKE A TAX DEDUCTIBLE DONATION TO THIS LINK:

http://reecesrainbow.org/69198/sponsordewberry-3

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DOLLARS FOR DAVID!

THIS IS A MASS CHRISTMAS SHOPPING EVENT BEING PUT ON TO HELP YOU SHOP RIGHT FROM HOME AND HELP BRING DAVID HOME.

HERE IS THE DIRECT LINK TO THE EVENT!

https://www.facebook.com/events/428419903946566/428511853937371/?notif_t=plan_mall_activity

Shop from all our generous vendors websites from the comfort of your home and a portion of their commissions will go towards the adoption fund to bring David home.

1. Isagenix - Nicole Trimble Dewberry
All Natural Weight Loss, Cellular Cleansing and Skin Care.
Enroll with a 30 Day Cleansing and Fat Burning System or any other Pack as an Associate with Autoship and 100% of the commission will help bring David home.
Order online at dawndewberry.isagenix.com or contact Denise Trimble Collins (919-552-6988) to set up your account and tell her it is for the Dewberry fundraiser.

2. Origami Owl - Kris Haase
She will donate 50% of her commission.
Go to: www.krishaase.origamiowl.com and enter the Jewelry Bar code of NicoleDewberry113397
If you have questions you can contact her at kris.haase@gmail.com
Submit orders by Dec. 15 for Christmas delivery.

3. Choffy - Melissa Macy - Independent Choffy Distributor
www.drinkchoffy.com/macy
Send Melissa an email after you place your order and include your order number with a note letting her know this was for the Dewberry fundraiser.

4. Thirty-One gifts - Karen Kochies
20% of all sales go to Dewberry Family. www.mythirtyone.com/105053
and guests can click on "My Parties" to find Dewberry Fundraiser.
Please order by Dec. 9 for Christmas delivery.

5. Noonday Collection - Kristin Cowan Harvey
Dewberry adoption will receive 20%.
www.kristinharvey.noondaycollection.com
Write Dewberry adoption in the trunk show box.

6. Usborne Books - Stacey DiBlasi Seeley
Up to 25% of commission will be donated.
https://y3322.myubam.com/36696

7. Doodlebuckets - Amy McCoy
www.doodlebuckets.com
See special Gift Basket below in comments.

8. Young Living Essential Oils - Angela Johnson Campbell
20% of commission goes to the Dewberry's adoption.
www.youngliving.org/ajd464
Please PM Angela and tell her your order is for the Dewberry adoption.

9. Scentsy - Bianca Montelaro-Olivier
https://biancaolivier.scentsy.us/Scentsy/Home?partyId=213331563

Look for Dewberry under My Open Parties.
Order by Dec. 17 for Christmas delivery.

More to come including Norwex and Avon

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This is a 1 time deal so first come, first served.
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Holiday Blend and Gingerbread gourmet Coffee
A box of Peppermint Tea
Peppermint Bark
Handmade Chocolate Fudge
Creamy Peanut Butter Fudge
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Chocolate Wafer Rolls
A White Chocolate covered Gopher Turtle and Pure Milk Chocolate covered Cashews
Dark Chocolate Mint Delights
Gourmet Sweet Chips (delicious Chocolate Caramel Chips with sprinkles)
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"Europe's Best" assorted Chocolate Dipped Cookies
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What Does Nicole Mean By Advocating For Orphans?

So glad you asked! In Ukraine many hosting programs are shutting down. The reason being is boarding schools (orphanages) are being condensed the more the foster care system grows in Ukraine. This leaves the school Directors in fear of losing their jobs if they do not hold a specific number of children in their boarding school. Then the threat of shut down looms over their heads. The second reason is with hosting programs that means many children will find their forever families which means again the number of children falls under what is required for the school to remain open. It is a double edge sword. You have many Directors that want their children adopted but then they know if they loose their job they cannot support their family. It is not easy in Eastern Europe to find a job in a couple days. Especially with the current climate Ukraine is in with war at hand.

5 years ago Nicole started to notice the decline in hosting programs being allowed to continue to bring children over to America. With the adoption of their children, especially their 2 littles ones Nicole & Joe knew they did not have the allotted time needed to dedicate to volunteer with NHFC and not be able to give it their all like they had done in the past. They did not want to fail the NHFC team. So they resigned and Nicole went freelancing in Ukraine. On Gods timing, when she was able, wherever God lead and with the team God put together. On these trips Nicole, her son Kolya and/or the team would teach children English, teach them about Jesus, love on them and then fight for them. Meaning if a child or boarding school staff came to Nicole and said this child wanted a family Nicole would interview them and spend as much time with them as possible to get to know them personally. Nicole would do this in an effort to learn as much as possible to help advocate for the child in hopes their forever family would come forward. Nicole would learn the good and bad in an effort to be upfront and honest with a potential adoptive family.

Nicole is not an adoption agency, a hosting agency, nor a professional and she does not work for anyone accept God. She is a gal after God's heart and children, a stay at home Mama that has worked with teens for 20 years and this is her heart and passion.

Why Ukraine Nicole?

In Eastern Europe it is very different then America. In America if a child is in the foster care system they can remain with their family for care until they are 18 years old. In America there is opportunity for just about everyone even if it is working at McDonalds. You are not labeled as an "Orphan". In Eastern Europe an orphaned children is basically wearing a stamp his/her their forehead that says "Orphan". It is like a permanent tattoo that is with them for life and never washes off not only in their mind but to others. They are not wanted or welcomed in many cases. On a trip to Ukraine a sign was spotted that stated "No orphans allowed" that was posted up on the door of a store. At the age of 16 these children age out of their boarding schools and have a choice of trade school or the streets. Most of them have no family to turn to. So just imagine a 16 year old child left to their own with NO accountability. With the economic crises and war in Eastern Europe the children that have extended family like Grandpa, Grandma, a sister or a brother cannot afford to take in the child so they only visit. If the child should choose to go to trade school it generally consists of coal mining, hair dressing, etc. Even with that in school the kids again are accountable to themselves and if they do not hold up their grades they are on the streets. If they graduate they still are stamped "Orphaned". So should they apply for a job with many other folks they will be the ones tossed because of this label. So their chances of graduating trade school and then getting a job are slim to known unless they are one determined child. The trade school housing for the kids is old hospitals that are now used as dorms. If a child is not back to their dorm by 10PM they are locked out for the night and they will call the streets then bedroom. Many children have been noted to say that they are scared to be in the trade school dorms because of the violence, rap, prostitution, drugs and alcohol. One child was noted to say that he would find kids shooting up drugs in the hallway and passed out. He bought a gun illegally in order to be able to protect himself of the unknown there. Then you have the rebels that take the world on by themselves that either at this point in their life want to live independently and not report to anyone or just cannot handle the trade school life and want nothing to do with it. So they take the streets to make it. They generally fall into becoming thieves, go into prostitution or commit suicide in order to survive. No matter how you flip this coin the statistics are grim from these children. They are all survivors doing just that.......surviving.

There is such a significant need all over the world even in America. Joe and I were foster parents and have served with youth in the US for our entire marriage and Nicole prior to marriage. God steered Joe and Nicole on a different path when they were introduced to NHFC and adopted their first son, Kolya from Ukraine. God has continued to call them to Ukraine in an effort to reach the voiceless and give them a voice, hope and love. God calls each of us to a specific place, time and season to do His work as Christians. God has shifted their call to Ukraine.....for the time being. Again they go where God leads where ever it may be.

Meet The Dewberrys

The Dewberrys came together as a family after hosting their now 18 year old now son, Kolya from Ukraine during Christmas 2010 through an International hosting program called New Horizons For Children, Inc.

In the midst of hosting Kolya, Joe and Nicole felt the Lord was going to lead them through more then just hosting in Ukraine. Nicole and Joe was were blessed to work with NHFC as a volunteer Regional Directors in North Carolina for the orphan hosting program. Nicole realized that in time there seemed to be a decline to host children from Ukraine with all the politics that was abounding in Ukraine. So she felt a lead to break away from hosting and go where God leads to travel to Ukraine and be wide open to God to lead her to orphanages to met children that could no longer be hosted and advocate to find them forever families that were aging out. For the last 6 years Nicole has been traveling to Ukraine several times a year to teach English in orphanages, teach the children about Jesus, show them the love of Christ and advocate for true orphans that want a forever family. Nicole brings aid to the Ukraine military, visiting the military in the hospitals as well as meeting active duty and on the field military and serving with mission teams the local folks that remain in regions that are devastated by war with her oldest son Misha. The Dewberrrys children have returned with Nicole to Ukraine on many occasions to serve the people of their country.

Kids are Joe and Nicole's love and passion. Nicole has worked with teens for 22 years. Joe and Nicole together have done mission work with youth and have specifically worked with at-risk youth and in church youth ministry for 17 years. The Dewberrys arms are wide open to show the love they have for the lost and forgotten youth.

The Lord lead them back to Ukraine in 2012 to adopt Tania, 10 years old & Stopha who is 8 years old and are HIV+. In 2014 the Lord lead the Dewberrys back to Ukraine to adopt Bogdan 12 years old who is HIV+ and Angelica 19 years old and Kristjan 16 years old. Then in 2015 the Dewberry's returned for Vova 16 years old and Viktor 12 years old. None of the Dewberrys children would not be home without the prayers and the hands of feet of Christ of folks coming alongside their family to see their children home and also all the mission trips Nicole has been on.

Nicole and her children continue to return to Ukraine to do mission work advocating for orphans that want forever families, teaching them about Jesus, teaching them English as well as doing doing mission work with the military and regions of devastation by serving those left behind.

With the greater increase in adoptions which is amazing there is also a greater need for support for adopted children and their families. Nicole is now working with Hope Connection International holding classes and support groups to teach pre-adoption classes, connect families that have adopted within the US and abroad and work with families in crises to help prevent disruption.

Our family prayer is to go where God leads.

Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. - James 1:27

About This Blog

This blog is dedicated to our heart and soul, the orphans that cannot speak out of Eastern Europe. This blog is about our journey of the adoption of our children, the mission work we do in Eastern Europe, advocating for orphans and wherever God leads our family.

This blog is also about the trials and tribulations we have faced with hosting, adopting, missions work already and yet to come. The grace, mercies and restorations of our hearts and minds. The incredible friendships God has provided along the way. About our missions trips to Ukraine working with orphans. The blessings of when Nicole volunteered with New Horizons For Children as Regional Director. All our crazy stories & adventures we have had along the way here in America and in Ukraine. And oh how we have adventures and stories! This blog is a dedication to our Lord and Savior encompassing the one thing he treasures more then anything, His children.....the orphans.

Saturday, November 30, 2013

The Dreaded Call........

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