And This One Matters......: July 2013

Saturday, July 20, 2013

And He Said Yes!

And He Said "YES"!

Steven said yes to adoption. He was our one that wanted to be hosted not adopted but could not be hosted with the hosting program being pulled. Joe & I stepped in faith the Lord called us to prepare to adopt him although not knowing the outcome. And he said "YES" to adoption. OK I am ready to start dancing with joy put on the disco music, lights and start rotating that disco ball. This is such incredible news I was running through the house with tears of joy!

And He Said "Yes"!

Our Soon To Be Soon, Scott

And He Said "Yes"!

Our Soon To Be Son, Sebastian

This Mama is like a horse at the gate ready, on the door and ready to run before it evens opens but focused like a laser when it opens...counting down the days verse seconds. 7 days and we are on the plane, my son Kolya and I heading back to Ukraine to the boys!

We Are Funded To Bring The Boys Home!

We cannot thank you enough for all your support & prayers for these incredible young men I will be so blessed to soon call my sons.

We ask for prayer for saftey in our travels. We ask for prayer for each of our boys for protection from anything Satan may through there way to tempt them. We pray for all clean labwork and chest xrays so that we do not get "stuck" in Ukraine for medical treatments. Praying the boys get a clean bill of health so we can get them home ASAP to their family (Papa, Tania and Stopha will be waiting at home for them anxiously). Prayer surrounding this whole trip and God gives me the eyes to see what I need to see and ears to hear what I need to here to advocate for other children should he open this door. Praying that God is glorified all the way through this entire trip and He is seen and felt.

In you, Lord my God, I put my trust.

-Psalm 25:1

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Holy Smokes 9 Dayz~!

Yes folks we are almost there! 9 days according to my watch and calendar according to Kolya's we leave in 7 days. Can you tell he is ready?

Haven't gotten to talk to my boy Scott since our last call but those words still circle and stick in my mind...."do you still want me"? I can not even fathom nor imagine the rejection these orphaned children feel with the anticipation and hopes of their birth mom or dad coming back for them and their loyalty to them. Or to a new adoptive family coming for them and the uncertainty of it all. Will they show up, will they love me, will I like me, will they care for me.........the unknowns and no trust factor in which surrounds it.......they give you what trust they have which is not real but they act like it is real (their faces say it all) and muster up what they can offer at the time until it builds with your relationship. All I can say is AMEN and thank you Lord for each child that is willing to take that step and leap of faith allowing a family to take them into their home and life. This is a step I can only acknowledge and let these kids know how brave I think they are and courageous in doing so.

9 days.......and were off. You know you are ready to go when all your bags are nearly packed and lined up by the door. Anxious to get back to the boys.....Naah....YEAH!

I do not know all the Lords plans for me when I arrive to Ukraine and if he will bring fourth children having desire for family (I say this because there are kids that will flat out do not want a family or they cannot function in one) like he has on all my trips but my heart is open to see His will and praying for His eyes to see what He wants me to see. But I have just started a page in which I will be "pushing" for these children should the Lord open that door. I will be blasting them freaking all over the place should this door open but you can count on this FB page and my orphan mission to Ukraine page I will post them up. My prayer would be to get them into a hosting program that works in region or willing to take any kids the Lord brings fourth but there is uncertainty if that will be possible. As the kids I met were unable to be hosted because the program was pulled. But Lord willing either way I will be advocating whether it be a chance to host or adopt. So please keep your eyes pealed should this door open. Here are the main pages to watch:

https://www.facebook.com/AndThisOneMatters

https://www.facebook.com/OrphanMissionToUkraine

http://pinterest.com/ddewberry/advocating-for-orphans/

We have been asked how much more do we need to raise to be funded and bring the boys home, Scott, Sebastian and Steven.

We are ONLY $668.75 short and we will be funded and then were there!

Joe and I have bought some clothes, sport equipment (football, soccer ball, pump, baseball bat, frizbees, baseball and glove), cards, shoes and other items to donate to the boys school. The school is hurting on any and all sports equipment. It will cost us $140.00 to get the suitcase to Ukraine then into region. If you would like sponsor this bag to help us get it to the kids that would be incredible! We got this puppy maxed out weight wise and have put overflow in our other two suitcases. Any support we would do greatly appreciate! If you would like to donate you can donate directly to diveshark@yahoo.com via paypal and please in the note section put "suitcase".
THANK YOU!

We cannot thank everyone enough for all your prayers and support in bring the boys home, our trip ahead for them, life at home when we return and the remaining funds needed. You all have no idea how much this has impacted our family to give more and push harder on advocating for the ones with no voices and not quit on these kids to find their forever families. Our family thanks you!

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

CANOE RAFFLE WINNER ANNOUNCED TO HELP BRING THE SCOTT, SEBASTIAN & STEVEN HOME!

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR PRAYERS AND SUPPORT IN BRINGING HOME SCOTT, SEBASTIAN AND STEVEN! WE COULD NOT HAVE DONE THIS WITHOUT YOUR SUPPORT AND ANSWER TO CALL TO HELP OUR FAMILY! THANK YOU FOR BEING THE HANDS AND FEET OF CHRIST IN MOTION! AFTER THE CANOE RAFFLE AND THE AUCTIONS WE ARE ONLY SHORT $1008.55 TO BE COMPLETELY FUNDED TO BRING THE BOYS HOME! AMEN!

WE ARE CLOSE.....OK ONTO THE WINNER!

DRUM ROLL PLEASE.........AS KOLYA IS SUITED UP IN HIS MOTHER'S FLOWER PRINT EYE MASK ARMOR TO KEEP IT A TOTALLY ANONYMOUS PICKING!

THE WINNER IS CHRISTIE BUFFALOE!

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE BUFFALOE FAMILY!!!!

THANK YOU THANK YOU!

WITH THESE LAST FUNDS OF $1008.55 TO BE FUNDED TO BRING THE BOYS HOME WE HAVE JUST A COUPLE ITEMS LEFT IN THE "MAKE ME AN OFFER AUCTION" SO WE WILL KEEP THAT OPEN. TO TAKE A LOOK AT WHAT IS LEFT PLEASE VISIT THIS LINK:

https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.513078288739091.1073741825.486219068091680&type=3

AND

10 For $10!!!!

If You Can Donate $10.00 To The Dewberrys Tax-Deductible Fundraising Account At: http://reecesrainbow.org/56718/sponsordewberry-3 THEN Turn Around And Send Their Story & Need To 10 Friends Or More Friends THAT WOULD BE INCREDIBLE!
Please Invite As Many Friends As You Would Like To Help Support The Dewberrys In This Campaign.

To Check Out Their FB 10 For $10 Page Please Visit:

https://www.facebook.com/events/156043717916201/?notif_t=plan_user_joined

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Canoe Raffle, "Make Us An Offer" Auction & Airline Roundtrip Ticket Raffle All End Tonight At Midnight! Get In While You Still Can To Help Bring The Boys Home!

He gives the childless woman a family,
making her a happy mother.

Praise the Lord! -Psalm 113:9

14 Days Until We Head To Ukraine To Adopt These Incredible Aging Out Teens On July 29th!

Steven, Scott & Sebastian!

To Read Our Story Of How We Came To Know The Boys & Move Forward To Adopt Them Please Check Out Our Blog Posts To Read Our Story:

http://www.andthisonematters.blogspot.com/2013/06/gods-u-turn.html

http://www.andthisonematters.blogspot.com/2013/06/still-in-u-of-gods-u-turn.html

We Have 14 Days To Raise $1704.58 To Be Completely Funded To Bring The Boys Home!

Wont You Join Us In One Of The Fundraisers We Have In Order To Help Us Bring The Boys Home!?

Hand Crafted Canoe Raffle!

CANOE RAFFLE ENDS JULY 15th @ MIDNIGHT!

$5.00 A RAFFLE TICKET TO WIN THIS HAND MADE POPLAR WOOD CANOE AND EVERYTHING YOU SEE HERE!!! ALSO SEE BELOW FOR PHOTOS!

FOR DETAILS VISIT THIS LINK:

https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.531766856870234.1073741828.486219068091680&type=3

EMAIL NICOLE AT:

DIVESHARK@YAHOO.COM & LET HER KNOW HOW MANY TICKETS YOU WOULD LIKE! ALL TICKETS ARE TAX-DEDUCTIBLE WHEN MADE TO THE BOY'S REECE'S RAINBOW ACCOUNT!

http://reecesrainbow.org/56718/sponsordewberry-3

"MAKE AN OFFER"

AUCTION WE HAVE GOING ON!
AUCTION ENDS JULY 15th @ MIDNIGHT!

Click on the link or the Ukrainian egg below to view all auction items!

https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.513078288739091.1073741825.486219068091680&type=3

MAKE US AN OFFER WE CANNOT REFUSE AND IF WE ACCEPT IT THEN IT'S YOURS! ALL DONATIONS ARE TAX-DEDUCTIBLE WHEN MADE TO THE BOY'S REECE'S RAINBOW ACCOUNT!
http://reecesrainbow.org/56718/sponsordewberry-3

WANNA FLY TO HELP BRING HOME THE BOYS! AUCTION ENDS JULY 15 @ MIDNIGHT!

LIKE TO TRAVEL BUT HAVE NO TIME FOR AUCTION ITEMS OR DESIRE TO PADDLE A CANOE BUT WANT TO HELP SUPPORT BRING THE BOYS HOME???? WELL I HAVE THE TICKET FOR YOU! HERE IS AN ONLINE AIRLINE TICKET UP FOR AUCTION TO ANYWHERE IN THE US EXCEPT HAWAII BUT INCLUDES ALASKA. NO BLACK OUT DATES. DONATION FOR THIS ITEM WILL BE TAX DEDUCTIBLE IF MADE TO THE BOY'S REECE'S RAINBOW ACCOUNT AT:
http://reecesrainbow.org/56718/sponsordewberry-3
FOR MORE DETAILS PLEASE VISIT LINK BELOW PLANE:

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Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Do you still want me.......?

Do you still want me were the first words that came from Scott when I was able to call him the other day. It has been over a month since we have been able to talk. I sit here reflecting on our call hanging on to every word and how awesome and emotional it was on both parts. My tough as nails 15 year old young man that could say "no" to adoption and take on the world and freedoms as he knows it has chosen family. He wanted to know if I would see him during the adoption and would I stay until I could bring him home. My answer " OF COURSE"! He said mum I love you, I wish I could give you a hug and a kiss. He got to talk with Joe and Joe is already Papa (HEHA!!!) the kids and Tania had a speal already almost like it was pre-rehersed in her head what to say to him like she was a programmed wind up toy but grinning ear to ear. You could hear him laugh and speak back with her saying thank you in his calm even keeled voice. Then he said "Mum I am ready for you to come for me". I told him I am ready to come for you as well and it's just a matter of a few weeks and I will be there before you know it. Then of course the Mum in me asked about his girlfriend and I asked are you sure you are ready to leave this all behind including her. He responded with I want to be with her but I want family so much more and I am ready. When in Ukraine with him in March and April him and I talked in depth of his life as he knows it, will be, girlfriend, our loss of Sergiy and not wanting to go through that again and this boy processed it all and thought it out and still has stayed committed to family even after his Crimean spring break with all his friends, girlfriend and freedoms he just returned from last week where all these freedoms should be fresh in his head. I knew if he could make it through that we were in the home stretch. So to hear he is ready and ask if I still want him oh how my heart melted for this young man going back to 8 years old when his mother discarded him and I could tell all those insecurities for that brief moment came back flowing into his mind. God is good but as we talked you could hear the security of me coming for him flooded his mind. I told him now don't you going running away on me because you know I'll chase you. I ain't letting you get away. He laughed and said " I know Mum". He knows I mean what I say and he knows I would fight kick and scratch for him. I hate that he lost his birth mother but I thank her for giving birth to him so that I will have the privilege to call him my son very soon. I told him in this time apart if you don't hear from me don't freak LOL know I am coming at God speed for ya. I asked how Sebastian was doing being they are buddies and he said they are now bunking together in the same room and that he is ready to come home to America and home with his family. Although Sebastian and Scott wanted us to adopt them both they do not know yet we are the actual family adopting him unless the beans have been spilled that I am not aware of it. All Sebastian knows is a family is coming for him but by talking with Scott I am sure they are putting the pieces together. I asked Scott is he still running away and he said no that he knows a family is coming for him so he is staying put. I told him good keep him there and duck tape him down if he tries to run. He laughed and said Mum he is not running anymore now he's ready to come home. Whew wee. Oh how I miss those boys! I cannot wait to hug each of them and oh how I adore them. I told Scott how incredibly brave and proud I am of him to make this decision to choose family over what he could have chosen. He thanked me. I told him I am proud of him graduating and how handsome he looked! He giggled. I said dude you let the mullet go! That is huge! I told him how proud I am of him because he choose a mum to love him and chew him out too! LOL! He choose rules and boundaries which he is aware of and still wanted family. He choose SCHOOL although he graduated and could leave that behind. He chose family over a girlfriend. He gave up freedom technically all for the sake of his strong desire for family. Man this is one proud Mama with this caliber of a child. Been working with kids like Scott for 20 years and this is eye opening and life changing for me to see and unfold in front of me most could not commit in his shoes. I was told by his social worker he has a strong desire for love and family and has always wanted a Mama. She had my boy pinned well.

Joe and I discussed his name and what he would want it to be and our thoughts if he was OK with it. We told him we would love for him to keep his given Ukrainian birth name like all our children (obviosuly it is not Scott LOL) but if Joe and I were able to have a son (can't I am spayed so it ain't happening) his name was going to be Brodie Scott Dewberry. So we asked him if he would take Brodie as his middle name and when I told him this was our desire to name our son this he started to tear up on the phone and said "Daah Mama Daah" followed by thank you this means so much to me. So I am sure you can guess that Scott should Sebastian want that name, we will ask him if he wants to take that as his middle name. Steven we will be scanning the Bible for man that was after God's heart and determined for follow him and did not falter. I am still researching this one. (:

I sit here and think of my children and soon to be children and all these amazing qualities that God can use for His greater purpose my Kolya......his is joy and motivation.....Stopha is seeing the needs of others and giving of himself........Tania is my compassionate one.....Scott is heart and soul......Sebastian is a strong tower and beacon of light......Steven is steadfast and determined to fight for what is right. Incredible traits each of these children I pray to soon all be in our family have. They are each so amazing and I would be so blessed and honored to all call my children.

Folks we are almost there! 19 days to go to get back to the boys! Thank you everyone that has been in prayer for me holding up, my boys and support. We are only $5K short to be funded! We could not have made it this far this fast without you! Thank you!

What Does Nicole Mean By Advocating For Orphans?

So glad you asked! In Ukraine many hosting programs are shutting down. The reason being is boarding schools (orphanages) are being condensed the more the foster care system grows in Ukraine. This leaves the school Directors in fear of losing their jobs if they do not hold a specific number of children in their boarding school. Then the threat of shut down looms over their heads. The second reason is with hosting programs that means many children will find their forever families which means again the number of children falls under what is required for the school to remain open. It is a double edge sword. You have many Directors that want their children adopted but then they know if they loose their job they cannot support their family. It is not easy in Eastern Europe to find a job in a couple days. Especially with the current climate Ukraine is in with war at hand.

5 years ago Nicole started to notice the decline in hosting programs being allowed to continue to bring children over to America. With the adoption of their children, especially their 2 littles ones Nicole & Joe knew they did not have the allotted time needed to dedicate to volunteer with NHFC and not be able to give it their all like they had done in the past. They did not want to fail the NHFC team. So they resigned and Nicole went freelancing in Ukraine. On Gods timing, when she was able, wherever God lead and with the team God put together. On these trips Nicole, her son Kolya and/or the team would teach children English, teach them about Jesus, love on them and then fight for them. Meaning if a child or boarding school staff came to Nicole and said this child wanted a family Nicole would interview them and spend as much time with them as possible to get to know them personally. Nicole would do this in an effort to learn as much as possible to help advocate for the child in hopes their forever family would come forward. Nicole would learn the good and bad in an effort to be upfront and honest with a potential adoptive family.

Nicole is not an adoption agency, a hosting agency, nor a professional and she does not work for anyone accept God. She is a gal after God's heart and children, a stay at home Mama that has worked with teens for 20 years and this is her heart and passion.

Why Ukraine Nicole?

In Eastern Europe it is very different then America. In America if a child is in the foster care system they can remain with their family for care until they are 18 years old. In America there is opportunity for just about everyone even if it is working at McDonalds. You are not labeled as an "Orphan". In Eastern Europe an orphaned children is basically wearing a stamp his/her their forehead that says "Orphan". It is like a permanent tattoo that is with them for life and never washes off not only in their mind but to others. They are not wanted or welcomed in many cases. On a trip to Ukraine a sign was spotted that stated "No orphans allowed" that was posted up on the door of a store. At the age of 16 these children age out of their boarding schools and have a choice of trade school or the streets. Most of them have no family to turn to. So just imagine a 16 year old child left to their own with NO accountability. With the economic crises and war in Eastern Europe the children that have extended family like Grandpa, Grandma, a sister or a brother cannot afford to take in the child so they only visit. If the child should choose to go to trade school it generally consists of coal mining, hair dressing, etc. Even with that in school the kids again are accountable to themselves and if they do not hold up their grades they are on the streets. If they graduate they still are stamped "Orphaned". So should they apply for a job with many other folks they will be the ones tossed because of this label. So their chances of graduating trade school and then getting a job are slim to known unless they are one determined child. The trade school housing for the kids is old hospitals that are now used as dorms. If a child is not back to their dorm by 10PM they are locked out for the night and they will call the streets then bedroom. Many children have been noted to say that they are scared to be in the trade school dorms because of the violence, rap, prostitution, drugs and alcohol. One child was noted to say that he would find kids shooting up drugs in the hallway and passed out. He bought a gun illegally in order to be able to protect himself of the unknown there. Then you have the rebels that take the world on by themselves that either at this point in their life want to live independently and not report to anyone or just cannot handle the trade school life and want nothing to do with it. So they take the streets to make it. They generally fall into becoming thieves, go into prostitution or commit suicide in order to survive. No matter how you flip this coin the statistics are grim from these children. They are all survivors doing just that.......surviving.

There is such a significant need all over the world even in America. Joe and I were foster parents and have served with youth in the US for our entire marriage and Nicole prior to marriage. God steered Joe and Nicole on a different path when they were introduced to NHFC and adopted their first son, Kolya from Ukraine. God has continued to call them to Ukraine in an effort to reach the voiceless and give them a voice, hope and love. God calls each of us to a specific place, time and season to do His work as Christians. God has shifted their call to Ukraine.....for the time being. Again they go where God leads where ever it may be.

Meet The Dewberrys

The Dewberrys came together as a family after hosting their now 18 year old now son, Kolya from Ukraine during Christmas 2010 through an International hosting program called New Horizons For Children, Inc.

In the midst of hosting Kolya, Joe and Nicole felt the Lord was going to lead them through more then just hosting in Ukraine. Nicole and Joe was were blessed to work with NHFC as a volunteer Regional Directors in North Carolina for the orphan hosting program. Nicole realized that in time there seemed to be a decline to host children from Ukraine with all the politics that was abounding in Ukraine. So she felt a lead to break away from hosting and go where God leads to travel to Ukraine and be wide open to God to lead her to orphanages to met children that could no longer be hosted and advocate to find them forever families that were aging out. For the last 6 years Nicole has been traveling to Ukraine several times a year to teach English in orphanages, teach the children about Jesus, show them the love of Christ and advocate for true orphans that want a forever family. Nicole brings aid to the Ukraine military, visiting the military in the hospitals as well as meeting active duty and on the field military and serving with mission teams the local folks that remain in regions that are devastated by war with her oldest son Misha. The Dewberrrys children have returned with Nicole to Ukraine on many occasions to serve the people of their country.

Kids are Joe and Nicole's love and passion. Nicole has worked with teens for 22 years. Joe and Nicole together have done mission work with youth and have specifically worked with at-risk youth and in church youth ministry for 17 years. The Dewberrys arms are wide open to show the love they have for the lost and forgotten youth.

The Lord lead them back to Ukraine in 2012 to adopt Tania, 10 years old & Stopha who is 8 years old and are HIV+. In 2014 the Lord lead the Dewberrys back to Ukraine to adopt Bogdan 12 years old who is HIV+ and Angelica 19 years old and Kristjan 16 years old. Then in 2015 the Dewberry's returned for Vova 16 years old and Viktor 12 years old. None of the Dewberrys children would not be home without the prayers and the hands of feet of Christ of folks coming alongside their family to see their children home and also all the mission trips Nicole has been on.

Nicole and her children continue to return to Ukraine to do mission work advocating for orphans that want forever families, teaching them about Jesus, teaching them English as well as doing doing mission work with the military and regions of devastation by serving those left behind.

With the greater increase in adoptions which is amazing there is also a greater need for support for adopted children and their families. Nicole is now working with Hope Connection International holding classes and support groups to teach pre-adoption classes, connect families that have adopted within the US and abroad and work with families in crises to help prevent disruption.

Our family prayer is to go where God leads.

Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. - James 1:27

About This Blog

This blog is dedicated to our heart and soul, the orphans that cannot speak out of Eastern Europe. This blog is about our journey of the adoption of our children, the mission work we do in Eastern Europe, advocating for orphans and wherever God leads our family.

This blog is also about the trials and tribulations we have faced with hosting, adopting, missions work already and yet to come. The grace, mercies and restorations of our hearts and minds. The incredible friendships God has provided along the way. About our missions trips to Ukraine working with orphans. The blessings of when Nicole volunteered with New Horizons For Children as Regional Director. All our crazy stories & adventures we have had along the way here in America and in Ukraine. And oh how we have adventures and stories! This blog is a dedication to our Lord and Savior encompassing the one thing he treasures more then anything, His children.....the orphans.